BE NICE.
Girls love when guys are nice.
You wouldn't believe how many times girls are turned off by a guy,
due to their evil ways. Be nice to her, to your friends,
and to any elders. Don't be a suck-up,
but if someone needs help or is being picked on,
help them! Make sure this girl sees when you're nice,
but don't be mean when she's not around or try and get her attention while you're being nice.
You will look like you're trying too hard.
Avoid mundane subjects like work, politics, or anything negative. Be in control of the conversation, but don’t be controlling. Don’t let yourself slip into interview type questions, like "Where are you from?" or "What are you doing here?" Try to tap into your slightly dangerous, but still controlled, side, and feed off that energy.
- If she brings up subjects that you think might steer the conversation down the wrong path, gently push the conversation in another direction. Saying something that has something to do with the topic, but is funny, light, and might bring a change of topic.
- If she keeps coming back to the subjects you think are leading the conversation astray, you have two options:
- Feed off of the ener Move past obstacles with grace. Many women will say they have a boyfriend if they don’t have enough attraction for you yet. At the same time, many women who say they have a boyfriend actually have one, so you've reached an obstacle. Don't fret, though, because an obstacle is made to be overcome. You'll move past it with grace.
- If a woman says "I have a boyfriend, I'd prefer it if you didn't talk to me," just smile, tell her it was nice talking to her, and move on to another candidate. Sometimes life gives you bad lemons.
- If a woman says "I have a boyfriend," and leaves it at that, you can say: "That's fine, I respect that. Do you mind if we keep chatting?" If she says yes, keep on working. You're making lemonade out of lemons.
- Don't assume that you'll be able to convince a woman in a relationship or marriage to part with her number. Maybe you don't even want to be that guy. If a girl mentions her boyfriend, you probably want to start looking elsewhere unless your dying wish is to get her number.
- If a woman says "I have a boyfriend, I'd prefer it if you didn't talk to me," just smile, tell her it was nice talking to her, and move on to another candidate. Sometimes life gives you bad lemons.
- Find an elegant, respectful way to leave the conversation, and instead focus on someone else. A simple "It was nice talking to you" should do the trick.
Be outcome-independent. Prime yourself not to care whether you get her attraction or not. If she's attracted to you, that's a bonus; if not, you'll move on to another interesting girl.
- If you tell yourself that you need her attraction because your ego can't take rejection, you'll be sorely hurt, over and over again, because you will be rejected at some point. Rejection is natural. If you're so hurt or disappointed because you missed a single opportunity, you'll miss out on the thousands of other opportunities that await you.
